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Embedded in or with

10/31/2015

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Embedded in or with
 
Since I first heard the term embedded being
used in 2002 to refer to the attachment of journalists with the United States
military I have more than a vague feeling of dis ease.   I knew that part of my discomfort was
because of my understanding this was a policy decision made at the highest
level.  Some of the reason for the
agreement , as I understand it, was:  “These reporters signed contracts with the military
promising not to report information that could compromise unit position, future
missions, classified weapons, and information they might find."
“Joint training for war correspondents
started in November 2002 in advance of start of the war. [4] When asked why the military
decided to embed journalists with the troops, Lt. Col. Rick Long of the U.S.
Marine Corps replied, "Frankly, our job is to win the war. Part of that is
information
warfare. So we are going to attempt to dominate the information
environment.”   ( Wikipedia)
Although I am sometimes leery of what I read
in Wikipedia, when I checked other sources I found general agreement about the
use of the term in reference to military journalist.
I was intrigued that the term was also used
to refer to a deputy sheriff who was described as embedded in the Spring Valley
High School in Columbia, S.C.   The
officer is reported (and recorded on cell phones of students) to have “flipped
a student backward in her desk and tossed her across the floor for refusing to
leave her math class.” (Associated Press article by Meg Kinnard entitled “Girl
was flipped backwards, tossed across the floor.")   This was the first time I had heard the word
embed used to describe the role of officers in schools in the United States.
The NPR report to which I was listening went on to report that the role of the
school “resource officer” varies from one primarily concerned with support
to one directly responsible for discipline as was apparently the case in this
South Carolina School.  According to what
I heard and read, the math teacher in this classroom requested that the student
hand over her cell phone during the class. Having taught at the middle school,
high school, and college level, I can personally attest that it is very
frustrating when students are using their cell phones during class. Various
schools have explored ways of handling these issues without setting up a
potential confrontation or a power situation with a student.
 
The purpose of this blog is not to address
the issues of how to address issues with disruptive students per se although I
think I could greatly benefit from having a discussion about this with my
six-year old adopted niece, Sam.
At this time, I am more interested in
exploring the power of the use of the term embedded and the corresponding power
of the role.
As I often do, I consulted
oxforddictionary.com for current accepted definitions of the word embed. I
found the following:
· 
Fix (an object) firmly and deeply
in a surrounding mass:….
· 
Implant (an idea or feeling) within
something else so it becomes an ingrained or essential characteristic of it.
· 
Place (a phrase or clause) within
another clause or sentence.
· 
Computing – incorporate (a text or
code) within the body of a file or document.
· 
Attach to a military unit during a
conflict.
It is interesting that in this day of instant
communication and updates, the use of the term to refer to journalist attached
to a military unit is already in the online version of the oxford dictionary.
The first question that comes to mind when
using this term to describe the relationship of the journalist to the military
or the “resource officer” to the school system is, “Who is the employer?”  In the case of the journalist, is the
employer the military, news organization who pays the salary, the moral values
of the journalist,  the religious
institution (if any) of whom the journalist is 
associated, the general United States public, or the world public?  In the case of the so-called resource
officer, we must ask the same question, “Who is the employer?”  Is it the school, the students, the law
enforcement body that pays his or her salary, the general public, or the values
system of the individuals?
As a licensed counselor and a certified
addiction counselor, I have often felt compelled to ask myself the same
question.  Who is my employer?  Is it one of the professional organizations with
a code of ethics to which I have agreed to adhere, the client and the people
affected by the behavior of the clients, the organization that employs me (this
could be a company, an agency or an insurance company), or my core value
system?
 
As a U. S. Navy veteran and a former
Presbyterian minister, I have often asked myself  the question of whether it is possible to have
a primary commitment or allegiance to the U. S. Military, the Presbyterian
Church, the God of my understanding, and the person to whom I am providing
spiritual guidance?  Often it seems to me
that there is a conflict with their various commitments.
It seems to me that in my role as counselor
or in my former role as pastor/minister, my primary commitment is to the person
I am counseling. The exceptions occur when that person is a danger to himself
or herself, another person(s) (especially when that person is a child) ,or the
community at large.   Most of the time
there is not a situation which makes it very clear that the person possess an
immediate threat to the physical health of another person. When one is talking
about the mental health of another the situation becomes cloudier.
In the case of the journalist who is embedded
with the military they have, in most cases, apparently agreed that their
primary commitment is to the military. To their credit, a number of journalists
have raised the same questions I am raising. 
It is also true that although many of the atrocities committed by military
personnel have been reported by the U.S. military personnel in Iraq, there have
been journalists who held on to their primary commitment to report what is going
on even if it meant jeopardizing their embedded role.
Although I am well aware of the need to
protect the mission of a military or the overall mission of an academic
institution once one has agreed to the basic premise that war is both moral and
necessary and that individuals needs sometimes have to be secondary to the
needs of the larger group, I think that terms themselves help shape one’s
behavior.
Really. Unless one is thinking as a
scientist or even the material of an artist, what do you, the reader, think of when
you hear the term embedded?  Does one
think of a very clear psychological and emotional distance between the embedder
and the embeddee?  I certainly do
not.  Of course, I know that I have been
accused of being "a perverted old man” but really?  Does not the average reader think of going to
bed with and, if thinking of adults (I am), does one not think of a very
intimate (if not overtly sexual) relationship?    When have I last said to someone I care
about that I want to be embedded with him or her?  When have I last felt comfortable or appropriate
saying to someone at the gym, “I would love to be embedded with you?”  In my gym, that would get me slapped and
probably, if reported, barred from the gym. 
It is not a term that I use or even think of in my everyday conversation
with friends, colleagues, or strangers.  
If, on the other hand, my mind (for which I
cannot be help responsible during my sleep) congers up a “potential embedding
situation” it is not in the context of my professional role.  In fact, if I had less than
ethical/non-sensual/non-sexual thoughts about a client I would quickly have a
“coming to Jesus” talk with the part of my mind in charge of my dreams.  Given my romantic partnership history, which
is not one I am always proud of (after all, I am twice divorced), I have not
always been the sharpest tack in the box, but, even I would never have said to
my partner “I am thinking of embedding myself with X.”  Really!
Am I the only one who has these sorts of
issues with the language we as a population seem to be eager to accept?   I have had a difficult time having a
thoughtful conversation with my concerns about the use of the term embedded as
well as the concept. 
I would like to think that we, as a
population, are inundated with works via social media and other outlets that
our poor minds are just too overloaded to even identify these sorts of issues,
but I am not convinced that is the case.
At the risk of being accused of being a stand
in for Mrs. Sheppard, my very strict, my 4th grade English teacher,
or the new language police, I am going to challenge myself and others to begin to
refuse to so blandly accept the use of  terms which so effectively blur our
relationships with each other and our roles to/with each other.
I do not want a journalist embedded with the
military. I do not want law enforcement embedded with the school system.  I do not want professional organizations to
which I belong embedded with the funding sources.   In fact, I am not sure I want to be
associated with anyone who is embedded with another person or who wants me to
be embedded with another person.  I am
perfectly comfortable with glassmakers, such as Chihuly, embedding a color into
another color in one of his wonderful creations even if that is not the term
which first comes to mind.
 
Written October 28, 2015

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    Jimmy Pickett is a life student who happens to be a licensed counselor and an addiction counselor. He is a student of Buddhism with a background of Christianity and a Native American heritage.

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